Happy Mother's Day! I want to call this Happy Parenting Day, as this message is for everyone. I have played many family roles in my life, but my most challenging role has been Mom. Now that my children are grown, I joke that I can’t teach a parenting class, but I can teach a class on how to survive it! So, how do you survive? What would I teach in that class? 

Firstly, I would teach you to examine every single 10% that comes up for you in your parenting role. Spend soulful, intentional self-awareness time asking yourself; Why am I reacting this way? What is this bringing up in me? Is this an old wound of mine being brought to the surface? Why do I feel so unregulated right now?  Is it about expectations – what you thought parenting would be, and it isn’t that at all?  Is it fear, worry, your need to be right or perfect?

Bringing awareness to your feelings can start you on the path to healing. Then we do less reacting in unhealthy, unconscious 10% ways and respond more in loving 90% ways.  Darren and I posted a video in February called, “If you don’t heal it, you will marry it!”. I will add that if you don’t heal it, you will raise it! 

Secondly, I would teach you to take very good care of yourself. Easier said than done, yes, I get it, but do it anyway. A rested, nourished parent is a sane parent. Give up perfection. Keep asking the person in the mirror, “What do you need?” and honour it. Leave the laundry, the dirty floor, the sink full of dishes and GO TO BED! 

Healing love,

Darci