My friends say to me, “I can always tell when you are doing well because you feed us!” I love hosting people but I can’t feed you unless I have fed me first.

I feed me, mentally and physically.

Mentally, I fill myself with positive thoughts, positive television, positive readings and I do not surround myself with toxic people. How can I be a fill to my family, my extended family, my friends and my audience members if I am not full first? I do not do anything more than three times that makes me cranky, tired or old without asking, “What can I do to change this and be a better person?” When people ask me, “How are you so damn happy all the time?” I tell them, “It is a lot of work!”

Physically, I look after myself by eating well, exercising and getting enough sleep. I have to be rested, nourished and cared for to be able to care for others. I look after me, then two-legged humans and the four-legged dog and cat in my house. Only then can I reach out and look after and feed — you. That is why some weeks it is all I can do to feed me and those in my house and go on the road again.

This Mother’s Day feed you first. Even if your mother did not teach you how to take care of yourself, do it anyway. That’s an old story. Stop walking in the footsteps of people who didn’t take care of themselves. If we learn how to feed us first, we can then teach our daughters how do to the same.